A drag (and not the gay, fabulous kind)

My activity on OKC has been limited of late.

(Ditto on the blogging, I know. Sorry.)

It's a combination of a low energy level, of a lot else going on and a lot of places to be -- and -- of wanting to escape the "work" of dating.

There are times, indeed, when such work feels draggy. Stale. Like I think I've seen every possible pick-up line couched in every possible tone. When responding feels like a drag, too.

I think of a long ago e-mail exchange with C, one of my first OKC friends. He's a confessed "serial" dater -- in part because the transient nature of his job allows him to stay out late most nights and I think he's in the habit of looking for a stool partner more than life partner. (Or maybe he desires a combination of the two?) I'm trying to be the former, following our vibe ... although I struggle since I just can't stay up that late anymore. Since our in-person meeting 3 weeks ago, he's cajoled me via text and instant message several times a week -- sometimes at midnight, sometimes at 3, wanting to talk through a Last Call downtown.

(I've promise this week to submit .... maybe.)

(And I digress.)

What C told me was that in his history on OKC, he'll be active for awhile, chatting up women and introducing himself, then get bored and ignore it. Then after a fashion he remembers what was scintillating about it and returns, finding it fresh again. This might be a couple months or a couple days. But whenever he comes back he's ready to go. He's not annoyed by flirtation from inappropriate parties or profiles that all sound the same or women who don't want to talk about anything but sex ...

Wait, that's me.

Me, the sex magnet as of late, for all OKC men.

Nine out of 10 messages to my inbox in July and August have either overtly proposed sex or just said "hi" ... and when I click through to the latter's profile, it is often devoid of anything but a sentence noting that he's looking for someone to "have fun with." Sometimes these men are 22, or 19, or 53, or live in California or tell me how sexy I look, but mostly it is just "hi."

As in: "Hi. Go to my profile and you'll see that I'm looking for sex. I'm sure that alone will make you strip off your clothes and come running."

Attractive.

I was inspired to write this post, of all days, after being greeted this afternoon by this message: "If you're interested, I'd like to talk." His main profile photo was a man's pale, untoned, shaved chest from neck to hips. I dug down into his profile ... and his additional profile photo was a man's pale, untoned, shaved chest from a slightly wider angle.

Yawn.

However, I then read his profile. I admit this man gave new meaning to the word audacious. A sample:

"..... whether ppl want to admit it or not, a big part of life is the need and desire to physically be close/touching other ppl. For the slow ones out there, this translates into ppl need to f*** one another to feel a full sense of "goodness" of one's self. It's ok to want to hump everyday. To have those days where you walk around so horny you can't concentrate on anything. And for any of the so-called rightious ppl out there, save it losers! We're all supposed to be adults here, and we can make decisions without having others "morally" throwing up over us. If you don't like someone elses view of something, you don't have to like it, but don't disrespect someone just because they're not as uptight as you are. After all this is supposed to be America where ppl can express themselves freely."

He then went on to discuss his talents with tongue. How he likes to spend Friday night's recreating a "human tripod." How he wants to meet someone who also wants to satisfy the most selfish part of their personality, only.

Wow. Despite the pasty, lumpy chest I confess to wondering for 10 seconds what it would be like to start a conversation with him, how quickly it would lead to a proposition, and with exactly what kind of language.

Then I recalled .... I've seen a man on here like this before. I've seen 7, or 8, at least.

Purported sex god. Bombastic.

Stale. Stale. Stale.

Perhaps time to take C's advice and take a break.