Trust the Timing of Your Life
1 day ago
"Power will be shut down for the entire building over the weekend. It will be turned off at 10PM Friday night and restored by 10PM Sunday. This means all of our systems will be unavailable during this time including email..."so that I had no reason
May 4 Poundage: CXXXVIINot always a fan of
May 26 Poundage: CXXXI
June 20 Goal Poundage: CXXI
(Poundage to go: X)
HBI: Down to f***? I am.Imagine a 2-minute gap.
Karin: Not today. Sorry.Now we had moved towards the same page. I checked out his profile. Clearly written in a voice meant to convey sex-crazed stupidity. Clearly playing games for some other amusement. I called him on it.
HBI: lol. Why you lyin?
K: Not. Sorry.
HBI: Is it because I'm vulgar?
HBI: Then I should try back tomorrow?
K: Nope. I'm taking a break for a bit.
HBI: Alright, so it's not my game. Becuase I talk a good one. Clearly.
K: Well.I wouldn't quit your day job.
HBI: God, we would be bffls if you weren't so prude.
HBI: Best Friends For Life
K: Hm. I was sure "f***ing" was a part of that. I'm surprised.
HBI: You were hoping.
K: Yes. You read my mind. Obviously you were holding out.
HBI: Occasionally I play hard to get.
K: Um. yeah.
HBI: We are a 49% match, and only 47% enemy. So...
K: only 47?
HBI: More of a match than enemy, so I don't see why you are acting like we aren't falling in love right now.
K: Falling? I've totally fell. 100%.
HBI: I'd be lyin if I said I had a hard time believing that.
HBI: Who wants to be fake, on a site like this? Not I.According to his profile, he used to be a grad student, which he elaborated on, telling me he was quitting to become a
K: Who, indeed.
HBI: I'm all about sincerity.
K: Evidently today you are Down to F***.
HBI: It's true.
K: As I would guess, based on your logic above.
HBI: Right, I just thought I would reiterate.
K: Professional poker player?Smart ass.
HBI: Indeed. Too unorthodox for a good christian girl, like yourself.
K: Do you think I'm a spring chicken or what?
HBI: Late spring, early summer.
HBI: You quoted my profile. Did you have more thoughts? Questions? I apologize for depriving you of the opportunity.Now. On the same page.
K: Well. You seem pretty witty. But your profile is kind of gross.
HBI: Yeah. It is. It used to be grosser. I mean, "more gross."
K: So why not just be witty in your profile. You could pull it off.
HBI: I don't feel like the majority are deserving.
K: The majority of who?
HBI: OKCUpid.... people. OKCupiders. OKCupidians
K: Wow. Do you meet a lot of stupid women?
HBI: That's what I generally aim for.
K: Hm. That's too bad.
K: Why did you aim for me?
HBI: Well, today is my day off. I was bored out of my mind, and you were online. I actually found your profile charming, but who has the time or energy for genuine effort?
K: Well, thanks for not lumping me in with the stupid girls. You put in the time or energy you feel like, I guess.
HBI: Well, when you rejected my initial effort, you threw down the gauntlet. I may be lazy, but I have my pride.
K: Hm. So what is the general response to your initial effort?
K: No kidding.
HBI: haha, no. I have never actually tried that exact line before. But it was the funniest thing I could think of, spur of the moment.
K: Well, thanks for trying to be funny.The crux. It isn't me, either. But I wonder how many people look at my profile and think .....
HBI: Not funny to you.
K: Earnestness on this site is overrated.
K: No. I'll take creative approaches to whatever more often than other things.
HBI: I have a hard time taking this site seriously. I mean, it's a place for sad lonely people. Neither of which would describe me.
K: OK. I do need to go. I, myself, am losing my lovable charm from sitting here so long.Who knows. Maybe he will, maybe he won't. Maybe I will, maybe I won't.
HBI: Have fun now. If you want there to be a next time, you let me know.
K: Well, I enjoyed the chat.
K: Let's do it again. You know where to find me.
HBI: haha, I'll leave it up to you, unless it's really my job.
K: It is. If I have to educate you in the ways of the world, I will.
HBI: How traditional of you. I will try to think of a better opening line for next time. Be prepared.
K: I'm girding the loins already.
Karin = good looking
"We are very pleased to report that you are in the top half of OkCupid's most attractive users. The scales recently tipped in your favor, and we thought you'd like to know.
"How can we say this with confidence? We've tracked click-thrus on your photo and analyzed other people's reactions to you.
"Your new elite status comes with one important privilege: You will now see more attractive people in your match results. This new status won't affect your actual match percentages, which are still based purely on your answers and desired match's answers. But the people we recommend will be more attractive. Also! You'll be shown to more attractive people in their match results.
"Suddenly, the world is your oyster. Login now and reap the rewards. And, no, we didn't just send this email to everyone on OkCupid. Go ask an ugly friend and see."The world is my oyster.
May 4 Poundage: CXXXVIIThis coming week brings challenges .... kicked off today by my sudden prediliction to eat raw oatmeal by the cup while sitting at work. It's fiber, but it's filling. Twelve WW points worth of filling in 2 cups.
May 19 Poundage: CXXXI
June 20 Goal Poundage: CXXI
(Poundage to go: X)
"I would love to have sew with you <3"He's from Morocco, so I suppose I should cut him slack.
K: Excuse me?Coming attraction: the other conversation I had today with a college student who, after turning down his request to meet up and share a massage, suggested that he instead join a yoga class if he wants to meet fit, smart girls ... to which he replied that "yoga makes me fart."
Rude But Honest: sorry, i am a bit horny
K: Evidently. But that's kind of rude.
RBH: i guess so
RBH: and i said it to the wrong person i guess
K: Well, you might have better luck with a bit more of a lead-in.
K: And work up to the s***ing part. Just saying.
RBH: yeah i'll note that
K: Alright. Good luck.
RBH: it sometimes work with horny ladies tho
K: Yeah, but you wouldn't usually know they're horny unless you ask.
RBH: are u horny by any chance :}
K: Nope. But thanks for asking.
"Hi, remember me?"To which I said, "no." To which he said:
"I was J**** before, but then I got a girlfriend and deleted my account. She broke up with me yesterday, so I'm back here.".... another man who is, amazingly, my age and who engaged me a week ago to converse about Yo-Yo Ma and the Museum of Fine Arts, replies today to my initial reply to say that, because his ex-wife has cancer and isn't doing well, he will consequently be full-time taking care of his children and probably won't be in touch for a couple more weeks, if he is.
"I'm holding my breath.".... there is a hole in each toe of each sock I'm wearing.
"I find myself in need of some combination of wise counsel, kindness, and perhaps tough love. My question is: do you think some people are just not meant to be in relationships? Is it possible that some of us are hard-wired in ways that make it impossible to have love that sticks around?Meredith, to her credit, suggests that she sounds completely normal and that it's just a matter of time.
"Clearly, I fear I am one of these people. I am in my late 30s and recently single after the demise of a relationship that I thought could be for good (or at least for whatever future I can currently imagine). I am very tired of finding myself in this place. I have no trouble making and keeping wonderful friends, and the ones who've known me for 20-plus years assure me that I am lovely and kind and smart and the right woman will be lucky to have me. I'm attractive enough to occasionally get hit on in bars (usually by men, and I am a lesbian so this isn't super helpful in terms of finding a partner). I have a professional job, had therapy when I needed it, and have excellent table manners, so the more obvious obstacles to connecting with someone aren't an issue.
"All of which leads me to wonder: is there just something inherent in some subset of people to which I belong that poses an insurmountable barrier to being in a relationship? Are some of us just doomed and would I be better served by giving up the ghost, accepting that I was meant to remain single, and trying to make peace with that? I feel like I have totally lost perspective on the whole thing and would be grateful for any you can provide."
"I have a wide range of friends in the 35+ range; many were single past 35, it seems slowly but surely, even the straggles find love. So, my money is on you finding it… someday. Maybe not today, or next month or even next year – but I believe it’s out there. That said, you do have to make peace; accept being alone (at least for now) b/c there are no guarantees. There is no rhyme or reason to love – I know beautiful, educated, sweet single gals in their late 30s, and I know just as many not-so-pretty, be-atchy chicks that landed fantastic guys. So, you have to stop thinking it’s something about you… love is kinda a crap-shoot."From a guy:
"While I do believe there is a subset of people who are not meant to be in relationships, I wouldn't be so quick to put yourself in the cat hoarding spinster category. (OK. Why is being a woman and owning cats SO UNATTRACTIVE? Someone ... please ....) In your late 30s, you are still young and have time to explore the world for Ms. Right. If, however, in another decade you find yourself caked with too much makeup, nursing a cosmopolitan at an otherwise empty bar reeking of cheap cigarette smoke, and mumbling "everything gonna be all right now", then you will know that are you are hard wired for loneliness."Probably the rightest of all:
"There's nothing wrong with you. You sound wonderful. I hope that you are as confident in real life as you are on paper, because confidence is super sexy and if you believe in yourself and what you have to offer, the right person is going to come along and fall in love with all of it."
"I really think that exercise has given him new energy," she said. "Think of how that feels when you're really active and you feel good about yourself."Dad has for the last 2 years been more sedentary than not. This is a good thing. I have faith in Missy's theory.
"You'll have to pardon me. My eyelids are in pain."I could tell.