Taking lunch in Copley Square
I love my building
when the sun is shining.
Karin: So, questions.What should I get J & J for their wedding?
Justin: Hm....They register somewhere?
K: And -- I have to RSVP by April 30. Should I proactively RSVP with a guest, even though I have no one?
Justin: Will you know alot of other people at the wedding? B/C I actually have some feedback about this RSVP thing.
K: Eh....probably 3 or 4 others. I know their families ... What's your feedback, oh sage?
J: Well, if you know people (fairly well)...then it MIGHT be best to go alone, depending on WHO you might take. I just went to a wedding and sat around a table with high school friends and spouses, SO. There was this one girl there who brought her 3-wk old boyfriend of sorts with her. A totally awkward evening for him, and sometimes for the rest of us. Once a guy knows where he stands with a woman (both in his mind and from her point of view), then he feels comfortable. B/C you definitely don't want to have to babysit someone...
J: Maybe not the best answer...
K: Just saying that going to a wedding alone for the umpteenth time and having to figure out all my own small talk is ..... preemptively exhausting.
Justin: Yup. I mean, you could do a +1 and if you have the right invite... you'll know.
K: I know. But I don't even have a prospect at the moment. Man in NY doesn't count.
J: Ha. I know. I know....
K: I think I need a desert island, an unlimited library and an unlimited supply of cosmopolitans and peanut butter. That sounds better than anything I've got on my plate right now.
J: Sounds pretty good to me too. Hm... This information about that whole depression thing .... I think the fact that your blog and life intersect so much can't be the healthiest. I think a "spring cleaning" is in order...:)
K: You're most certainly probably right.
J: I think, seriously that you could focus on the SINGLE part. Not so much the TRYING NOT TO BE SINGLE (on your blog) not necessarily your life. :)
K: Don't I already do that?
J: I don't think so. Do you? Maybe I've been misreading? :) I'll have to go back and re-read some of my favorite posts.
"Feel bad I kept you up so late. Enjoyed talking though."
"I'm imagining right now how much more I'd enjoy this if you were here with me."
-- John Hermanson & Chris Cunningham, 2008
K: Seriously. Drove in in a downpour.And that was that. No rising to the bait. No acquiescing to my wimp-out. Which means I'm going to put on my windbreaker and Red Sox cap and go with my friend to catch a fiver. Probably a cold, too.
B: It's going to be a wet run tonight. I brought lots of clothes to change into after.
K: Seriously. This is the only day we get rain this week….
B: Better than a heat wave.
Karin: You awake?I do know. Do you? Here's a reminder both of how much it rocks and how not easy it is:
Piano Man: depends what the meaning of "awake" is... ;)
K: I have set the bar low, so I'm sure you're over it.
PM: What I'm talkin 'bout
K: I _think_ I got that. (see previous e-mail about the low bar)
PM: s'ok. have you had a chance to fool around w/ the Bach/Busoni (herinafter B/B) yet? It's not so easy. But it rocks, as you know.
K: I haven't. I had to print it out at work, and it is sitting here on my desk. It actually makes me afraid. Tomorrow night, I have time and a night off, so perhaps I'll experiment with the futility of trying to play it.
PM: "afraid"? An intrepid NoDakian like you? HA!
|Henry (4 weeks) - September 2008|
|Oliver (4 mos) - April 2011|
From a man who says his occupation is "monkey": How about we .... climb a tree and chill.
From a man who says his political views are "anarchist": How about we ... Go for coffee and see if we like each other, then I take you away to a secret museum and after we have crepes. Finally we have a drinks as I tell you another secret. Finally I do a tarot reading and find out if everything I imagine about you is true!
From a man whose profile pic is a pencil sketch of a smiley face: How about we ... gdgdg.
From yet another Jewish software engineer in Cambridge: How about we ... Invent names for abstract pieces of art at the ICA.
From a man whose profile is relatively nondescript: How about we: each pick a place that serves mulled wine, try 'em out, and see who made the better choice."That's just today. Since I've been hanging around chatting with Piano Man pretty regularly the last couple weeks (which, I both anticipate and fear, is turning into a long story with uncertain ending) and otherwise maundering about, I haven't answered any. Which maybe I should ... especially since a glance at past offerings shows a large number of men proposing to take yoga class together, and I have not been getting my yoga on lately as I should.
How about we... ....enjoy the glory of Bach's incomparable B-Minor Mass as sung by The Cantata Singers and do a post-event critique over cocktails in the South End. (Which I ended up not even doing myself. In fact, that was the night of the Meet-Cute at Symphony Hall that ended with me crying in my beer for an hour.)So Howaboutwe.com is also spamming me with bi-weekly advertisements for another feature of their website, "The Date Report." Usually these things annoy me more than tartar-removal sessions at the dentist, but I'm actually enjoying them. I'm thinking it's the no-nonsense unsentimentality of it, like today's heading:
10 Adventurous Boston Dates, Morning-After Etiquette, + How to End a Short RelationshipWhich brought me links to advice titled
How Do You Break Up with Someone You're Only 'Sort-of' Dating?
Oh Sh-t! Is This a Date? 6 Strategies For Coping with Awkward Situations.
Dating Tips from Awkward Tween Pop Star HopefulsWhich brought me views to links of past articles which such titles as:
8 Things to Wear on a Date to Impress a Geeky Guy
Vocab Lessons: British Dating Slang We'd Like to Adopt
Tell Me If You Think This Is Weird: I'm Totally Ok With Being Single And Know Valentine's Day Is A Made-Up Holiday But I'm Still Depressed
How Do You Know If She's The One? Watch Her Eat Corn.I don't know what to do with it all. But it's all very amusing.