Naw. I'll admit it. Tonight I got floored.
Just home from Rooftop Thursday with the Michigan folks, chilling on the patio with a bag of popcorn and the Gmail account, and up shows an erstwhile boy who, in April and May, I chatted with enough to matter. The classic he's-10-years-younger-but-we-have-so-much-in-common type.
(Yes. Mock if you will.)
We had two Almost Dates. May was the last failed attempt and we hadn't talked since.
Erstwhile Boy: HiPlease go back and imprint in your head the dialogue you just read. Reserve it.
K: Hey there.
EB: How ya been? Find love yet?
K: Oh, of course. You?
K: Come on. It's super easy.
EB: Nah... Not what I want
K: Come on. Get a sense of humor
EB: Every girl wants an all or nothing relationship
K: If I could find love you probably wouldn't be talking to me. Why so blue?
EB: Just stressed I think. When it rains it pours.. I'm tired
K: What makes you say hi tonight? It's been awhile.Our chat pace was slow. About this time I recalled that he also wrote a blog, one pertaining to a major hobby ... and for which the blog is a major catalyst. The name is unusual enough that I re-found it quickly and started browsing as I simultaneously wrote him about my trip to Europe. He was explaining some of his summer pursuits.
EB: I saw you in and I'm hardly ever on. Trying to quit the Internet
K: Noble. Are you in school this summer?
EB: I think about u often .... Daydreaming mostly
Funny, this, because I was reading about these same pursuits on his blog as he was writing them. Was also reading a couple of phrases that seemed to be of relative import:
".... while on my honeymoon ..."One entry pictured him kissing a woman, and the surrounding text suggested this would be the same said-wife, recently married. Rather explains why we hadn't talked since May.
".... including my wife ...."
Meanwhile, back on Gmail, I had just finished a tale of Europe.
EB: Haha. Very cool. I still hope we can get together at some pointHere is me. Thinking maybe I should ask his wife if she would mind if we got together at some point. Or ask if he remembered he had given me his blog address.
K: Perhaps. I'm sure you are quite otherwise occupied.Really, really almost said something. Realized I was too tired to play the devil. Realized my job was not to fix this man, but to just not talk to him any more.
EB: I'm pretty busy yes... But.. I still want to get together... Perhaps have some excitement in our lives
K: Hey, alright, I'm gonna bail. I'm on the patio and it's coldAnd people wonder sometimes how I could possibly be cynical about dating. Bald-faced duplicity is just a total hoot.
EB: Wish I was there to warm you up