Man (M) views Woman's (W) profile.
W views back, interested.
M views W's profile several times.
M sends W a greeting.
W responds to M's greeting, favorably.
W moves on.
W assumes M has moved on.)
M views W's profile several more times.
W views back, curious.
Random night in June, M sends W an IM, says
"I often see you online when I'm online ...
...I feel an unrequited camaraderie with you.
M and W chat for an hour, pleasantly.
(M reveals, among other things, that he reads W's blog.)
W likes the tone of the chat, likes the commonalities.
(Age, location, running, music-loving, quirky, well-read.)
At the end of the hour, M and W mutually decide to meet.
He is leaving for a week's vacation, however.
She is then leaving for two.
They will do so after, of course.
(Three weeks pass.)
W returns from vacation, writes M to set date.
(Five days pass.)
M writes W, briefly, says
"Sorry, I don't think I want to meet after all," and
W is disappointed, but not too much so.
(They had never met; there was nothing to mourn.)
W accepts the right of M to change his mind or
Perhaps have found someone else.
(W, herself, has another interest.)
W at first thinks,
"That was kind of M to write at all."
But then she thinks about
The dozen times M viewed her profile.
That M reads her blog.
That M wrote her first,
Talked to her for an hour,
After which he wanted to meet her.
Until he didn't.
(The vacation kiss-of-dating-death strikes again.)
W doesn't know what would have changed that.
Which doesn't matter, really.
W already figured M's loss of interest
Because he hadn't responded.
But something about M waiting 5 days
Just to say "no thanks,"
Stung W more than expected.
(Why the wait?
Why, then, the sting?)
Leaving W to think, yet again,
After expending effort and emotion
On an M
To zero effect, yet again,
"What the F***?"
For future efforts and emotions,
At what point in the long life of an almost date
Should she wish it had been
Better never than late?
What is it with this fallacy
That women are considered the more confusing sex?